So many are used to having total control over how they want their hair to look. With the simple bend of a curling iron or application of a chemical to the hair, one could re-create their idea of the perfect masterpiece on their heads.
With many that have decided to go natural, they discover that their hair often has a mind of its own and does what it wants to do. Many naturals are then faced with the decision: Do I go back to the ease and comfort of my straightened/relaxed hair that I’m used to or do I battle with this hair that is more work than I anticipated and am beginning to dislike?
When the natural hair wave first took off, there were so many people sharing their beautiful hair and hairstyles. One thing that many tend to forget is that everyone’s natural hair is unique to them. We would see the hair of others and imagine that we could emulate with our natural hair something that grows differently but naturally on someone else.
Of all the years I have been natural, I have gotten the best results when I stopped trying to “control” my hair and simply started taking care of it. I have been natural for so long that it is simply are part of my normal life, such as getting dressed or brushing my teeth. Some days my puff would just not work due to shrinkage and I would just embrace the compacted afro and adorn it with a lovely flower or headband. No need to get frustrated! Once I fell asleep on my afro and smashed the side. I inserted a nice comb in there and rocked a fierce side-fro. I got so many compliments on an accidental hairstyle. I get creative instead of frustrated with my hair!
The minute I stopped comparing my hair and started embracing it for its own unique beauty and qualities, I never had another bad hair day. I learned to “listen” to my hair. I pay attention to when it needs moisture as opposed to lubrication or protein as opposed to conditioning. I understand that I have 3 different textures and that all of them require different amount of product. I stopped looking at what products did to others hair and started understanding what types of products I needed to get the best out of my hair.
I experiment with different hairstyles and like certain fashion trends, no matter how cute it looks on someone else, it may just not be for me! However, I have recognized which styles and looks do work best with my hair and I work those the best that I can.
For those of you that are still getting used to your natural hair, find one thing you really do like about your hair and enhance that as much as you can! Your confidence alone is enough to make any hairstyle extra beautiful!
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